It can happen to you whether you're young, old, male, female, gay or straight, it can also happen in any community.

Sometimes the abuse is committed by a partner but it can even be by another relative.

 

Whatever your circumstances, you’re not alone, don’t suffer in silence, there are people who can offer you advice and support.

MALE VICTIMS

 

It can happen to any man, no matter what background, age, job, race or sexuality.

Abusers believe they have the right to control their partners often telling them what to do and expecting obedience.  The perpetrator often won’t accept responsibility for the abuse.

 

Abuse may include:

 

  • Constant yelling or shouting including verbal humiliation
  • Violence including being scalded and objects being thrown
  • Willfully stopping fathers seeing their children
  • Making false accusations about who’s committing the abuse
  • Excessive contact – stalking
  • Using social media sites to intimidate

 

LGBT - LESBIAN, GAY, BISEXUAL AND TRANSGENDER

 

Domestic violence happens in same-sex relationships too. Some surveys suggest there is domestic violence in 1 out of 4 lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender (LGBT) relationships.

Whilst much of the abuse in this group is the same as that experienced in heterosexual relationships, unique forms of abuse may include:

 

  • Threats to ‘out’ without the victims consent
  • Criticising someone for not being a ‘real’ gay or bisexual
  • Fears that no-one will help because someone ‘deserves’ the abuse
  • Belief that agencies like the police, are homo or bi-phobic
  • Abuse may be associated with manipulation because of a chronic disease e.g. HIV this can also pose an additional risk if there is also sexual abuse

 

BME COMMUNITIES

 

There are often many additional barriers in BME communities including forced marriage and honour based abuse.

 

Other issues facing BME women include:

 

  • Immigration control by the perpetrator
  • Financial abuse/control e.g. benefits applications
  • Intergenerational issues
  • Religion used to control
  • Being blamed for being too westernised
  • Being prevented from integrating into society
  • FGM (Female Genital Mutilation)

GET HELP NOW

 

DUDLEY’S DOMESTIC ABUSE PARTNERSHIP SINGLE POINT OF CONTACT 01384 455411

 

MEN’S ADVICE LINE (MALE VICTIMS)  0808 801 0327

www.mensadviceline.org.uk

 

NATIONAL DOMESTIC VIOLENCE HELPLINE  0808 2000 247

 

BROKEN RAINBOW UK (LGBT) 0300 999 5428

www.broken-rainbow.org.uk

 

ASIAN WOMEN'S HELPLINE  0845 607 6474

 

IN AN EMERGENCY CALL 999

Domestic abuse

isn't always obvious

Produced by Graphics Studio, Dudley Council

Community Safety

Dudley Council

Brierley Hill Police Station

Bank Street, Brierley Hill

(Please note no personal callers)

 

email: community.safety@dudley.gov.uk